How does your boyfriend behave in group settings, such as parties or gatherings?
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How does your boyfriend act when he's around other couples?
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How does your boyfriend initiate physical contact with you?
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How does your boyfriend communicate with you when he's away from you (e.g. texting, calling, video chats)?
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How does your boyfriend behave around his exes or previous love interests?
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How does your boyfriend behave in front of your family?
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How does your boyfriend behave when he's had a few drinks?
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What kind of interactions does your boyfriend have with your coworkers or classmates?
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How does your boyfriend respond when someone flirts with him?
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Does your boyfriend make suggestive comments or jokes around you?
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How does your boyfriend treat other people's boundaries?
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How does your boyfriend react when someone else shows interest in you?
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How does your boyfriend act when he's around your friends?
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When you're out together, how often does your boyfriend make eye contact with other people?
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How does your boyfriend show affection towards you?
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How does your boyfriend respond when you express jealousy or insecurity?
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How does your boyfriend react when you talk about other guys or mention an attractive male celebrity?
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How does your boyfriend interact with other people on social media?
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How does your boyfriend behave around other people?
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How does your boyfriend react when someone compliments him on his appearance or personality?
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How Flirty Is Your Boyfriend?
Huge Charmer
Your boyfriend is a huge charmer. He probably loves to flirt and charm everyone he meets. He may be very confident and charismatic, which can be attractive, but it can also be a cause for concern if you feel like he's not fully committed to you or crossing limits with other people. Make sure to communicate your feelings and set clear boundaries.
A Bit Flirty
Your boyfriend may enjoy playful banter and compliments, but he's still respectful of your relationship and doesn't take it too far. This can be a good balance of fun and fidelity, as long as you're both on the same page about what's acceptable behavior.
Just A Friendly Guy
Your boyfriend probably enjoys making friends and being social, but he doesn't have a romantic interest in anyone else. This can be reassuring, but make sure you're still getting the affection and attention you need from him, as he may not naturally express his feelings in a flirty way.
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Is your boyfriend a big charmer? It’s not a bad thing in itself – after all, it probably helped him sweep you off your feet. You might have a problem if your partner prefers to flirt with other people rather than you. He might be an extrovert who loves some innocent teasing, but what if it’s not that innocent? Find out if your partner is a flirt or just a people person.
Is your boyfriend too nice to other people, or are you being unreasonable? Sometimes it’s hard to tell if you have a valid reason for concern. If you want to discern between friendly and flirtatious behavior, pay attention to these signs:
He’s Touching Other People – Too Much
A hug can be innocent, but being in someone’s personal space is not. Watch out for your boyfriend being too physically intimate with other people, especially if he’s not willing to touch you the same way.
He Talks to Others More Than He Talks to You
Of course, chatting with a friend or joining a conversation in a group is perfectly normal. It’s when your boyfriend is dismissive of you and always prefers to talk to others than to you when you might have a problem.
He Showers Other People with Compliments
Perhaps he’s just being nice, but giving someone a lot of compliments might indicate something more than just friendly feelings.
He Treats One Person Differently
A friendly guy will treat everyone in the same cordial manner. He’s being flirty if he’s focusing on one person, greeting them particularly warmly, only engaging in a conversation with them, and mirroring their behavior.
He’s Making Intense Eye Contact
Making eye contact with someone you’re talking to is polite, but too much is suspicious. If you catch him gazing endlessly into the other person’s eyes, you might have a problem.
He Guards His Phone Carefully
How to tell if your boyfriend is flirting with others over texts? He’s cagey with his phone, has a habit of texting when you’re together, and gets defensive when you ask him questions.
He Acts Flaky, Dismissive, or Cold
Does your boyfriend treat you differently than he used to? Does he keep canceling on you? Does it seem like he’s losing interest? He might be more interested in other people than in you.
Of course, not every familiar interaction is a cause for alarm. Your boyfriend might be naturally social and like to connect with others. He might also be more relaxed about what’s appropriate and what’s not.
A lot depends on what you feel comfortable with and where your boundaries are. You might be okay with your boyfriend dancing with another girl, but not with him putting his hands on her waist. You can respect his right to privacy and agree not to pry into his conversations, but he shouldn’t be spending your dates texting all the time.
These are just examples. Consider setting some ground rules on what behavior crosses the line – something that will work for you both.
What to Do When Your Boyfriend is Flirting With Other People
How to react when your boyfriend’s flirtatious behavior gets out of hand? Here’s what you should do to keep your relationship from falling apart.
Have an Honest Conversation
Giving him the silent treatment or being passive-aggressive won’t help. Instead, try to talk to him openly and let him know how you feel. It’s possible he doesn’t even know what he does is hurting you. Either way, you won’t go far without communication.
Don’t Judge Too Quickly
Be careful about making a huge deal out of a situation. Avoid verbal attacks, hasty accusations, and spiraling into paranoid thoughts. It won’t help you fix your relationship or make you feel better.
Figure Out if You Can Trust Him
Can you actually trust your boyfriend not to do anything shady? Does he have a history of concerning behavior? If he’s given you a reason to doubt him in the past, your suspicions might be valid. On the other hand, if he’s never been anything other than faithful and loyal, you could be getting ahead of yourself.
Think if You Can Forgive Him
What would you do if you had proof that he was making advances on other people? Can you forgive him and move on, or is it a deal breaker? Should you forgive him, especially if this isn’t the first time? Consider the best path for yourself.
Ask Your Friends
You might be hesitant to involve other people in your relationship, but the thing is – your friends might see more than you do. They might be able to offer you some advice and help you decide what to do.
If your partner isn’t willing to correct his inappropriate behavior, or if his flirting has turned into cheating, you might want to cut your losses and let him go.
Flirting is a natural behavior, but when does it get too much? How flirty is your boyfriend? Is he a big tease or just a friendly person? Take the test and discover the truth.
