The time has come for another personality quiz. Today we will analyze one particular trait that, in excess, can cause problems. Are you the jealous type? Every person is a little jealous at times. Find out if there is too much of this jealousy in you with our self test!
What is jealousy? Let’s try to explain it carefully and in detail. Jealousy has to do with unfulfilled needs and insecurity. Jealousy is a feeling that arises in a situation of frustration resulting from the potential threat of having one’s needs met or confronting the current lack of satisfaction. It often co-occurs with mistrust, a desire to control and aggression, which in turn stems from a fear of loss.
Jealousy is an emotion that occurs in most relationships. And it can cause various problems in a relationship. Jealousy is also one of the first feelings we learn as children. It occurs in relationships with parents and caregivers. People can be jealous of various things. Most often, jealousy occurs in a romantic, monogamous relationship. You can also feel jealousy by it comparing yourself with others. Jealousy then makes you realize that someone is better off than you.
Jealousy can be mixed with others negative emotions. It can be anger, grief, sadness, disappointment or embarrassment. Everyone feels jealousy sometimes, even if they don’t want it. Jealousy is sometimes even useful. However, it must occur in small amounts. The life filled with jealousy is no good. How to deal with jealousy? Are you jealous too much?
People express jealousy in various ways. Learn about the types of jealousy in a relationship if you want to know more.
Envy and jealousy are very similar and co-occur with each other. Envy arises in the situations we mentioned – when we envy other people’s life situation as a result of comparison. Some people can’t accept the successes of others. It reminds them of their failures. Envy breeds slander, rivalry, gossip and many other forms of evil. An envious person wants to hurt the one who arouses feelings of envy.
When human envy becomes pathological, it can drive an envious person to slander, persecute and even desire the death of another person. Then envy even devours the envious person, because it makes him value only what is beyond his reach. It can be very dangerous feeling. Lot of envious people are unaware of their enviousness.
Therefore, when jealousy turns into envy, it is better to notice it. Being envious is not good for anyone and does no good. It is important topic. We should educate people about it. Then people will know how to enjoy other people’s successes. Our reactions depend on ourselves. If we pick enjoying the success of others instead of envy, it will bring us many benefits.
It’s how we are always has its causes. It’s the same with jealousy, it doesn’t come from nowhere either. The main reason for jealousy is the person low self-esteem. The feeling that you are worse than others makes you jealous. Jealousy is caused by lack of self-confidence, insecurity. It is difficult to live happily when you notice any or even all of these things in yourself.
Feeling constant anxiety is not a good base to from a healthy relationship. Another reason for jealousy can also be lack of confidence. If we don’t trust our partner, we will constantly suspect them of cheating. It makes us jealous when our partner has contact with anyone other than us.
Also, fear of abandonment can have a lot in common with jealousy. Being afraid of rejection, you will constantly think about it. And then jealousy accompanies those thoughts too. Because what if your partner finds someone better? Fear of abandonment prevents you from establishing lasting relationships. If you think your jealousy is harming you and others – take a look at it all.
The jealousy can be healthy. It can motivates us. It make us to put effort and take care of ourselves. On the contrary, it can prove to be uplifting both for the relationship and for ourselves. However, it is important not to get into a situation where jealousy begins to poison life and disrupt normal functioning. Then we have the impression that our partner feels superior to us, cheats on us, lies to us.
Every relationship is completely different. If we start to feel jealousy, it is worth considering what signals may have caused this emotion. Is it due to the current situation or our past experiences (from other relationships). The way to think about relationship difficulties together is always open communication.
Toxic jealousy:
• You constantly suspect your partner of cheating.
• You regularly check your partner’s phone.
• You invade your partner’s privacy.
• You want to control your partner.
• You ask others where your partner has been.
• You expect your partner to spend time only with you.
• You use emotional blackmail.
• You prohibit your partner from seeing others.
• You accuse your partner of cheating and lying.
• Your jealousy causes most of your arguments.
It is signs that your jealousy is toxic. The occurrence of this toxic jealousy requires putting in effort. Working on yourself then is the best solution. See what you can do when you are toxicly jealous.
Jealousy is accompanied by heightened anxiety and insecurity. Jealousy’s goal is to warn us of a threat. However, this threat is often unreal, which you have to realize. In this case, all the techniques that lower our internal tension will be conducive to dealing with jealousy.
First you should find the cause within yourself. Why are you jealous at any given time? Is it related to the fact that someone once cheated on you? Or maybe the cause is your low self-esteem? It is necessary to see which factor is the strongest.
With our psychological tests you can quickly find out if you have Trust Issues or Fear of Abandonment.
If the reason is a lack of trust, due to the fact that people once treated each other badly, then talk about your concerns with your partner. Do it calmly, without accusations, and ask your partner for help. If your partner tries to make you feel safe, it will make your jealousy weaken over time. If nothing changes, you may want to think about couples therapy.
But if the reason is your low self-esteem, then you should do some self work. Make a list of your good qualities, abilities and strengths. You need to focus on things and activities that bring you joy. Look for self-help books. It cen help you rebuild your self-esteem. And if it doesn’t help, think about psychotherapy.
Now that you know all about jealousy, you can take our special quiz – Are you the jealous type? Our quiz will tell you if the jealousy you feel is at a normal level, or if it’s harmful. It’s useful to know your weaknesses, so if your weakness is jealousy it you will already know how to deal with it. Remember that toxic jealousy is bad for relationship satisfaction and life in general. So let’s make your life better!
