What does your husband think of you? Well, unless you’ve only been married for about 30 seconds, you have some idea about what’s on his mind. Still, some guys can hide their thoughts really well. How to penetrate this mental wall? How to protect your own feelings? In our judgment-free zone, you can try and make sense of what’s happening in his head. What does my husband think of me? And more importantly, what about my own wants and needs? Let’s dig in!

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Signs Your Husband Isn’t in Love With You

None of us want to think about it, yet sometimes we need to accept that our love has passed us by. Is there a “happily ever after” possible? Do you have to let him go? Take a deep breath and consider these painful signs that your spouse is no longer in love with you.

He’s No Longer Affectionate With You

You enjoyed it when your husband kissed you before leaving for work or cuddled up with you on a couch. Now it seems like the sweet, loving gestures are in the past. He doesn’t say “I love you” anymore. If he does, it seems forced. Forget about cute little surprises or lovey text messages.

Of course, everyone expresses their love in their own way. Your spouse might not be the sentimental type. What matters is if he stops doing things he used to have no issues with before. If he couldn’t get his hands off of you, and now he stopped seeking physical intimacy at all, it should concern you. Decreased libido could be a consequence of many things, so keep that in mind. Your husband could have physical or mental health issues that make him not interested in sex.

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He Appears Closed Off

Not every man is open with his feelings. If your husband was always the “strong and silent” type, you don’t have to worry. The problem appears if he suddenly starts to give you the cold shoulder and put up mental walls. Other circumstances could make him behave that way, though, and they might not have anything to do with his feelings for you. Your spouse might be working through personal issues or work troubles. If you suspect that’s the case, try to reassure him he can turn to you in times of crisis.

He’s Not Interested in Talking to You

One of the best things about marriage should be having the person you enjoy talking to. It’s not a good sign if the need for conversation disappears from your relationship.

Realistically, not every chat you have will be deep and meaningful, and some boredom in a long-term relationship is nothing to worry about. There will be days when you are not in the mood to talk, and that is perfectly fine! Still, there should be a desire for a meaningful connection. Your spouse should be interested in what you say, ask about your day, engage in banter, or try to bond with you. It’s concerning if all your conversations feel hollow and you only ever talk about the logistics, like kids or chores.

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He Seems Checked Out

You can fix many of your marriage problems, but only if both of you are willing to do the work. Nothing kills the relationship as quickly as apathy. Does your husband try to maintain your union, or does he not seem to care? Does he seem passive or dismissive about any relationship concerns? It might be a sign of him not being emotionally engaged anymore. Watch out: if his apathy creeps out to other parts of his life, not just your relationship, it could mean depression.

He Spends Less Time With You

It can be worrying if your husband consistently chooses to spend time alone or outside the home. You may feel like he is always working. If he isn’t working, he is preoccupied with hobbies and other activities that don’t involve you. If spending time with your spouse has become a challenge, it may be a sign that something is amiss.

The fleeting, butterflies-in-your-stomach, rose-tinted-glasses puppy love eventually gives way in a relationship. Mature love can fluctuate over time, but it’s more constant. Life challenges or personal struggles can pull you and your partner apart. It might be possible to repair your bond if you’re both feeling it’s worth it. On the other side, if the love seems truly gone, moving on might be the best choice.

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